Ambiguous Loss book helps

September 17, 2013 at 2:15 pm Leave a comment

I want to tell all of a book that is proving very helpful in working through my grief at Margie’s death. I think it is essential reading for all who are caregivers of loved ones with dementia or Alzheimer’s. The book is by a family therapist, Pauline Boss, and is Ambiguous Loss. Her research on ambiguous loss started with the wives of airmen who were MIAs in the Vietnam war. Normally at the death of a loved one those who are close work through their grief in response to the fact that death occurred and the rituals of death. Boss found that these women had very different grieving, because of their uncertainty about their husbands; their children asked questions about their father among other constantly recurring reminders of the husband who was missing.

Boss then found that caregivers of dementia and Alzheimer loved ones face the same problems. While we know that death will come, we have ambiguous grief during the endless months of caregiving. She has many suggestions for us caregivers that are now helping me.

I recommend that caregivers read this very readable book.


Entry filed under: Alzheimer's disease, dementia, soulmate.

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